Personal Glimpses

What would I change about my body? Well, this would definitely be my hip. Although I’m skinny, my hip actually is kind of big which makes my whole body looks odd. Just imagine, with a normal sized head, shoulder and waist, as it goes down this suddenly gets bigger and turned my whole body shape to look like a pear. Can you imagine my stats here? I m 34C-26-36. Although it seems perfectly normal for a girl to look like that although some of my friends actually say that’s it ok, but in actually fact I would prefer to have a normal sized hip. I’m not sure whether this is normal for my age, biologically speaking, my body should have prepared itself for childbirth since I’m not at the end of my teenage years. Well so much for the biology lessons. I just hope this doesn’t get bigger anymore, as I grow older.

Some of the reason why I don’t like having big hip is because going out for shopping actually makes a real headache. Can you just imagine going in and out from the changing room to get a new pair of jeans just because the one, which you like the most, cannot accommodate my big hip? Most of my jeans few years back cannot worn now and that’s really a problem. Most often I tried to look for the fancy types like lady-like brand with the special cutting for the extra curves but I guess after I managed to fit into it, my hip will just protrude out like a balloon. I tried going for skirts to hide my hip, but I don’t like wearing skirts in the first place. As a matter a fact, I do care about what other would say to me and I’m very conscious about my looks.

Another thing, which I hate the most is that guys will snigger and even try to take advantage when they get the chance. Once when I was joining my friends in a pub celebrating her birthday, I could hear sniggers and chuckles a table away with a bunch of guys making some weird and loud remarks. I do not know whether they were aimed at me, but there was mention of the “hip” word in their conversation. I also slapped a guy once when he decided to pinch my butt. So was so angry after that and my emotions really boils down to my nerves. Oh…How much I wish that hip can be reduced just a few inches. Even if it can’t, I hope it doesn’t get any bigger as the days go.

Shelly – UK

If there’s one thing that I wish I could change about my body, it’s my height. I’m only close to 5 feet tall and for a guy that is extremely short. Being short has many disadvantages. Girls will usually be attracted to taller guys. Being short also means that I will always have the sense and feeling of being a lesser person or not as masculine when compared with taller men. It’s not a surprise that at 29 years of age, I’m still single and available.

Height has always been my problem and girls seem to always reject me whenever I go out for a blind date. So far all of them were actually taller than me and there were never any follow-up calls whenever I tried to reach them again. It can be frustrating at times and the worst part is, there is nothing that I can do about it. Unlike having thin lips or flabby cheeks being short means there is no surgical correction available. Being short has its disadvantages while being at school and at work as well. During my teenage years when I had already stopped gaining height, it was very depressing when each and every one of your buddies seemed to pass me in height overnight. Now I was destined to look at their shoulders and chest from my eye level. This has affected me emotionally and I was often teased that led to me to having low self-esteem. Today being at work also means more or less the same problem. Bosses seems to have that unsure feeling towards me and sometimes feel bullied upon.

Another thing I don’t like about being short is that there are certain sports I may never get involved in. Basketball has always been my favorite and since middle school I no longer play it due to my height disadvantages. There are actually many types of athletics I can participate in. Sigh…the list seems to be endless. Being short also means that I can’t reach higher spots like the kitchen cabinets and at times it’s quite embarrassing to see me reach for the chair to reach the cup placed at the top spot.

After all these years being short I’ve learned to accept things the way they are. I always try to lift myself up by saying that being short makes me steadier on my feet. For instance, standing in a moving bus I am pretty solid on my feet but I notice all the taller folks struggling to balance. This is just somehow a little comfort for me while I try to get myself to accept things as they are. Hopefully I will one day meet my dream girl. Hopefully there is a short girl out there for me somewhere.

Derek, 29, short and steady.

We received this letter from a young lady in Asia. The Asian people are so beautiful so this makes us sad to think this insecure woman feels she needs to look different.  She writes:

If my fairy godmother were to be in front of me, I would make a wish to make my eyes bigger. Being an Asian, I have to accept the fact that there’s nothing much that I can do about it. All Asians generally have smaller eyes – especially if they are Chinese like myself. Well it’s not that I want to complain about my genes or anything, but it just makes me wonder how great it would be to have those big round eyes so that I could put on eye liner to make my eyes look perfect. Sometimes I envy the gorgeous Caucasian look that has those round and big eyes. It makes them stand out from the crowd.

I try to overcome the problem by putting on mascara and by using an eyelash curler. After all that effort it doesn’t seems to show any positive effect and the worst part is, it makes my eyes look strange and unnatural. I was thinking of going for a plastic surgery but that will have to be in the future because the surgery costs can be quite high and it is equivalent to almost 1 year of my salary.

When I was in my teens I had the opportunity to enter a beauty pageant contest representing my social club. Although being skeptical at first, I managed to convince myself to enter. I tried my best to put on a good look and impress the judges. I was very unlucky that day because the mascara I had applied, suddenly dropped off. I was so embarrassed by the whole incident that I swore that if there’s one thing I can do before I die, it would be to make my eyes become bigger.

Another unforgettable incident was when I had a chance to visit the UK during one of my company trips. I had a crush on this cute British guy and was so impressed with his gentlemenly attitude. Alas, after a very long conversation I could sense that he had no interest in me. I can’t help but wonder if I had bigger and rounder eyes it may have made some difference. Well if my fairy godmother is reading this article I hope she will grant me this wish.

Jenny, 26.

One thing, which I always hope, can be altered and change on my body is my baldness problem. I have been bald ever since I completed my university degree at the age of 23. Before that I look ok and in fact most girls say that I’m good-looking. I was famous among my friends before that. Right soon after I graduated, I noticed that my hair is becoming thin and every time after shower, I would be shocked to find a handful of hair stuck in the drain. At first, I thought this was just normal and I didn’t suspect anything as none of my family members had this kind of problem. One day after I noticed that there’s bald patch appearing, I said to myself that this is it. I immediately went to see the doctor, which did not offer any helpful advice and instead advised me to seek help from professional hair-restorer. In fact all my condition and health were diagnosed as ok.

After seeking consultation and paying quite a large amount of money for the treatment, I still noticed that the condition still remains the same without much change. I began avoiding people and hid myself in a room. I stopped going out with my friends and now every Saturday I decided to stay at home because I was scared of bumping into my old college mates. Everything seems horrible and the icky feeling will always follow me wherever I go anywhere. Once I met a girl, which I’ve known since high school and she was indeed shocked to see my baldness. For many close friends and family members whom I seek advice, they told me that this thing is perfectly normal and I should accept life as it is but I still can’t accept the fact until today.

I wouldn’t mind if my baldness started at 40 years of age as that would seem perfectly normal. But at the age of 25? Oh, My goodness. I now spent most of my time surfing the net and today in fact when I’m writing this article, it reminds me of how life used to be like when I was in university. I just hope the another hair treatment specialist which I will be meeting soon can cure this problem and if there’s anything like a true wish that can change my body, I would wish that I want my baldness to go away.

Hopeful guy, 25.

If there is one thing which I would like to change about my body, that would definitely be my bust. As a fully matured lady, sometimes it envies me to see someone with larger breast attracting all the guys’ attention. My breast size is only A-cup size and it has stopped growing ever since I was in middle school. Sometimes I feel it is just not fair that this thing just happened to me. Having smaller breast not only makes you less attractive but it also affects your self-esteem as well especially for a lady to be mixing around with guys.

My worst experience with my bust was once when I was in the public shower room and since there were no closed doors and partition, I have to join the group of ladies taking shower together. I could hear the sarcastic comments aimed at me and after the whole incident, not only it makes me feel bad but also I was down and my appetite was affected as well. I did try contemplating to go for surgery but due to my financial constraint I decided against using this option.

Another reason why I prefer not to go for surgery is because I’m scared of the scalpel knife. I just hope I will one day have the courage to do so and with better financial stability, I will be able to afford one. So far, my counter measures are to continue using some of the breast enlargement cream available in the market and this has eaten in my monthly allowances as well. I don’t go to the beach and I only go to public swimming pool, which has less patronage.

Having small breast also has affected my interpersonal skills to communicate well. I believe all this stemmed from my lack of self-esteem and confidence about my personal looks. So far, I’m still single and available and with not many guys showing interest in me which I believe having small breast is also part of the reason. Although I’ve read in magazines saying that guys do not generally prefer larger breast, but I think that is just not true. After all the bad experiences I’ve s eem to given up in life. I try to lift myself up by wearing loose clothes but that just doesn’t help as well. I just hope that one day these will all change and definitely, if there’s anything I would like to change about my body, that would be my bust size.

Ms. X, Singapore.

My name is John Satisfied, I’m from JDville and am currently single. I wouldn’t change anything in my body as I’m satisfied with it. And while I don’t think I’m the best looking person, the reason why I don’t want to change anything is because it will help me find the right person. A true lover will overlook your bad physical qualities. And while being more muscular or having blue eyes might help in attracting a lover, a true lover wouldn’t base it on those features. They would focus more on my personality rather than appearance. And it’s more important to find someone who’s looking for more than appearance if you want to form a formal relationship. As what good is it not being single if you don’t feel true love from them. And if they get with you just because they solely like your appearance, the relationship won’t last too long. By changing my body I’d be fooling myself, and the other person. If they don’t like what they see, then they can move along.

Also, I’ve seen various people who look less attractive than myself and are with good looking lovers. So it goes to show you that lovers don’t always go for appearance. If you feel uncomfortable or even ashamed of your appearance, take another look in the mirror and look inside. Try to think of all of your good inner qualities, such as personality. Perhaps your are a funny person, or talented in a specific field such as art. Those things will help you overcome any physical defects that you may think you have. There’s also some other things which are a bit more serious such as certain diseases or conditions that you may have which you might want to get rid of. I have a friend who has some sort of skin cancer and can’t expose himself to the sun for too long. And he has to walk around with an umbrella. While this may make him look a bit foolish and you’d think that girls would avoid him, that’s not the case as he has a loving girlfriend. His girlfriend overlooked his disease and decided to be with him. And if she can look past his condition, other worthy individuals will do the same.

That sort of inspired me to be satisfied with my appearance. And I’ve even seen the “good looking” being unsatisfied with themselves. These people will try to gain or lose weight, get nose jobs etc. when they look perfectly fine to me. But in the inside they don’t feel satisfied. I think it’s a unhealthy tendency that us humans have. We want to change our look, thinking that it will attract others, and while this may be a bit true, as I previously mentioned, you want to attract a good individual that actually cares about you, not your skin color, forehead size and so on. And if people like my friend can live life with such a burden, and still find love, it goes to show that getting rid of that “defect” doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t ever be happy with it. He accepts his problem, lives his life as best as he can, and is happy. I suggest we all do the same.